I Stayed Too Long In Jobs I Hated
Jobs I seriously, truly hated. For close to ten years, I worked as a Recruitment Consultant; working with job seekers and employers. And for another ten years before that, I worked in other corporate jobs.
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It wasn’t the people I worked with or anything like that – no. They were awesome colleagues, actually. I don’t think I would have lasted so long if not for the sheer luck of working with great people. It was simply because (so I later learned) that my personality just didn’t suit what the corporate sales world required.
There I was – a classic introvert – talking the talk, walking the walk, and dancing the dance. As many experts suggested – I faked it, till I made it. And I did, you know. I climbed that shiny corporate ladder like my life and happiness depended on it. But I was never happy.
Interestingly – although it was MY JOB to help people find their dream job; I was confused with my own passion – my own dream. I felt like an imposter.
My Job Paid The Bills
I hated my jobs even more because they were the jobs that paid the bills. Those jobs fed my family – clothed us, put a roof over our heads, drove us around, and took us on vacations. How dare I hate those jobs, aye? But I did.
It wasn’t until much later that I realized that I could be a WAHM – A Work at Home Mom, or even a Mompreneur. I could have my cake, and eat it too; so to speak.
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6 Strategies to Help You When You Hate Your Job
After many years, I finally got myself out of the rut that I was in. It was a difficult path for me – but in hindsight, it shouldn’t have been. Life is short, so we should live it best as we can.
So I want to help you. I know how it feels and how debilitating it can be do something you hate day in and day out.
So here we go! Here are 6 strategies to help you when you hate your job:
1. You Are Not A Failure – Remember This
When you are in a situation you dislike, it’s easy to berate and kick ourselves for it. Know this first and keep it in mind: There are millions of people feeling exactly the way you feel right now. Just because you are working in a job you hate; it does not mean that you have failed.
2. Don’t Vent to Your Colleagues
Hands up if you have spoken to your colleagues about your dislike for your job — Yup! I put my hand up with you. Stop this right now.
Don’t worry, it is human nature to talk to others about how we are feeling. But know this: Venting to your colleagues does not help you. Venting is simply complaining. Trust me – complaining does you no favors.
3. Bring It Home
Yes I do mean bring it home – as opposed to the usual don’t bring it home.
Let me explain.
I’m not talking about bringing your work home – or your moods, or the sh*tty things that happened today. I’m talking about bringing it home and talking to your partner or your husband about how you are feeling. A problem shared is a problem halved, ya?
Talk to your partner about how you are feeling; and together, make a plan to overcome or get out of it.
4. Make a Plan
Having a plan, makes things clearer.
- Determine why you hate your job – is there anything that can be done to make you love it more? No? That’s alright; but you should have a real reason for it. So really look into this and know what it is that you don’t like about it.
- Identify realistic options – Look at the bigger picture here.
- Consider your family income, your expenses, what it is you want to do and how you can achieve it.
- Make a budget – how does the potential loss of your income affect the family budget. Can you survive for a few months while you are looking for something else? Or do you need to save some money first?
- How soon can you leave your job? Is it 3 months? 6? 12? Write it down and create a clear path to follow.
- Start Looking – If you’ve decided that it’s just the job you hate, and not so much working for another company or employer – then it’s time to start job seeking and looking for other opportunities. If you want to start your own business – do your research, and make a proper business plan.
- Implement your plan – take the steps to implement your plan and the path to what makes you happy.
Tip: Read my post on 5 Things To Do Before Quitting Your 9-5 Job for a more detailed step by step on making a plan.
5. Be the Best
Okay, so this one is important. Regardless of how you are feeling right now – you owe it to yourself to be the best that you can be. No.Matter.What.
Just because you want to leave your job, it doesn’t mean you should give yourself permission to throw the towel in and suck at what you do.
So in the meantime, continue to put your best foot forward and take on new challenges. In other words – continue growing.
6. Leave On Good Terms
When you are finally ready, make sure that you leave your job on good terms. Forget giving your boss a final kick. It is so important that you never burn bridges. Your boss, your colleagues, and your networks… they could be your clients one day. They can help turn your dreams into a successful reality.
A way forward
So there you have it, mama! Remember:
- You are not a failure
- Don’t vent to your colleagues
- Bring it home
- Make a plan
- Be the best
- Leave on good terms
If you don’t know what it is you truly want to do – don’t worry, because I didn’t too! – try How to Find Your Passion So You Never Have to Work Again.
Dig a little bit deeper and get the FREE Find Your Passion workbook here.
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Dig a little bit deeper and check these courses out. These courses helped me through the first few months. I spent on other courses too – although I really wish I hadn’t. These are the only 3 I would buy, if I had to do it again:
- Pinteresting Strategies – By Mommy On Purpose
- Making Sense of Affiliate Marketing – by Making Sense of Cents
- How to Blog for Profit Without Selling Your Soul – Ruth Soukup