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Choose a Job You Love
There is a saying by Confucius ~ Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life. I think this is spot on! Confucius clearly knew what he was talking about. BUT – if you’re like me, you will have asked yourself how to find that job you love so you can make it happen.
The problem for me was that I didn’t know what my passion was. I always felt like the Jack of All Trades and The Master of None. I worked in both large and small organizations, climbed the corporate ladder – but nothing seemed to satisfy me. I felt like I was in a hamster wheel, doing the same thing everyday – day in and day out – running towards nothing.
For years, I toyed with the idea of going in a completely different career direction; but I always chucked it in the back-burner for fear of not succeeding or even thinking that it was something I deserved. And like you, I have a family to feed. At the time, I was the main income earner in my household, so my fears were always greater than my desire – if that makes sense.
The funny thing is … I worked as a Recruitment Consultant. It was MY JOB to help people find their dream job, and help employers find their perfect candidate. And yet, there I was.. confused with my own passion – my own dream. I felt like an impostor.
*Note: This Post has been updated as at January 2019.
What is Passion?
Simply put, passion is an intense feeling. Now, what is NOT so simple is knowing what your passion is. So don’t feel bad about not knowing it yet. YET – is the keyword here!
Let me explain.
People always say that your passion is that one thing that you cannot stop talking about – something that you would never tire of doing. Have you heard that? Many times, I assume? Don’t worry – I heard it too.
It devastated me that I couldn’t find my passion – until the day that it I finally did.
You know what? Finding your passion should be easy – it’s YOUR passion, right? How could you not know what it is?
Now see – the thing that keeps us from really putting our finger on it is… LIFE. What now?
When I say Life, I’m talking about our responsibilities. You know what I mean? (How dare life get in the way! Just kidding!)
There are people who just love to dance, right? And I’ll bet you that they would love to make a living from it – but don’t think they can. Or how about those who love to make art? And what about those who can make really awesome pottery projects?
You see, we have been raised to accept that our passions are not what’s going to get us by in life. We have been told many times that our passion is meant to be a hobby – something you do on weekends – and real work is what gets us through this life.
As I have said before, as young children, we have beautiful, shiny, and clean slates. So, we should know that everything that we tell our children – everything that is told to us as children – goes on to that slate.
While we might think that what we experience as children should not dictate our paths into adulthood, it would be foolish to think that it doesn’t.
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Let Me Tell You A Quick Story
20 years ago – on my first day at university; we were placed into groups for orientation. The coordinator then asked us each what we would like to do and achieve in our lifetime.
Everyone in the group had tangible goals that they were working towards. One wanted to be a lawyer. Others wanted to be teachers. Some, engineers. They all had specific titles that they were working to, one day, become.
Then it came to my turn. I panicked because, for years before university, I was told many things.
- I was told that being a stay at home mom was meant for those with no ambition.
- I was also told that I couldn’t sing. I didn’t even get into the school choir.
- I was told that going to the remote villages and helping orphaned children would mean that I wouldn’t earn much money.
- Writing isn’t a real job, I was told, and only really good writers get published.
So I answered – “I want to help people and make them happy.”
The coordinator (and the rest of the group) looked at me; all expecting me to add to that statement. They prompted me to go on, but I had nothing. I had no idea how I was going to help people and make them happy.
“Is that it?” she asked.
So for years after that, I slipped in and out of real jobs – helping people and making their lives easier… in the corporate world, where people made money.
I was an executive assistant; and made my manager’s life easier, but doing all of his administration work, setting up his meetings, and making sure he stopped to have lunch. I became a flight attendant, and made the journeys of travellers easier, by serving them tea and coffee in the air, and handing out airline blankets. I also worked as a trainer, working with underemployed government beneficiaries. I loved it… but as everyone said, that kind of work didn’t pay much. I became a recruitment consultant and helped people find jobs.
Let me tell you… nothing satisfied me. Nothing made me feel whole.
Today though… today is different. Writing on this blog has given my life a whole new meaning.
Receiving messages from readers saying that they are so glad to have come across my blog because it helped them to realize that things could be simpler – that’s where it’s at for me. Or that time when someone said, “This made me cry. Your blog is so relevant and so real. Please keep writing.” That makes it all real for me.
These are all part of the reason that I do, what I do. The reason why I know I made the right decision.
How to Find Your Passion
So let’s do this. Let’s find your passion, my friend!
Step 1: Write It Down
Get a notebook and pen. Straight away, make a list of what you would love to do – if money was not a problem.
Step 2: Look Back
Look back on to when you were a young person. What did you want to be? Now, I’m not talking about when you were 3 or 4 years old; when we all wanted to be princesses and ballerinas. I’m talking about after those years and well on to your teens.
Take yourself back to that time before your slate has been muddled with others’ opinions and “shoulds”.
Look back and try to remember what you loved doing. Write those down too.
Step 3: Consider Your Skills
Now, write down those things you are really good at – no matter what they may be.
Are you good at:
- Singing – Do you have an awesome voice that only those close to you have heard?
- Writing – Do you write great articles, letters, essays?
- Public speaking – Do you get a buzz when speaking to large groups, and feel that you have made a great impact?
- Making cakes – Are you that mom that makes beautifully crafted cakes?
- Comforting others or Listening and giving advice -Do your friends come to you more than others because you have a good ear and give great advice?
- Leading people – Do you find that others look to you for guidance and leadership?
- Organizing things or events – Are you amazing at organizing events, no matter how intimate or large?
- Finding the truth – Are you that person who always manages to get down to the bottom of things?
Nothing is off limits here – only YOU know what you are good at.
Step 4: Consider Your Values
What is important to you? What are those you value most in life? What do you expect from others because you would do the same towards them?
- Reliability and dependability
- Being of service to others
- Having fun
Anything that you put on to this list must be what you find is important in your life.
Step 5: Bring It Together
Without listening to your thoughts (you know… those naysayers in your head), bring it all together. Begin striking off those which do not come together in the middle. As your lists begin to get smaller, you should start seeing that which you always knew was your passion.
What To Do With Your Passion
Now that you have completed the “easy” (yeah right!) part – you need to ask yourself: What will I do next?
If you are serious about it, like I know you are; you can begin to make a plan. I know that things don’t happen overnight. So next, I want you to head on over here and read the 5 Things You Should Do Before Quitting Your 9-5 Job.
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You can do this mama! You were BORN TO DO THIS!