How to Clean A Hoarder’s House When It Feels Impossible

When A Loved One is A Hoarder

Having a loved one who is a hoarder can be a painful, difficult, infuriating, and traumatic experience. You tend to make excuses for them and ask whether arguing over rubbish is worth it… all the while trying to remember that it is not rubbish to them.

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I have experienced literally having a tug of war over a plastic bag filled with empty toothpaste tubes.

I have put things into the rubbish or recycling bin, only to find that everything I put in was being taken out and brought back inside the house.

I have walked inside a loved one’s home, where there was no place to sit because every surface was taken.

Now before we begin, let me tell you – I am not a psychiatrist, and I speak only from experience. You can learn more about Hoarding from the American Psychiatric Association HERE.

When a Loved One Asks for Your Help

When my loved one asked me for help, I hesitated. I knew that even if I did something, that it would all go back to the way it is – why bother? But they admitted to feeling overwhelmed. So I helped. Why? Because asking for help is the first step for your loved one. Not just a first step – a BIG first step. SO – Let’s begin.

How to Clean A Hoarder’s House

1. Understand the Practice of Hoarding

Before we talk about cleaning a hoarder’s house, it’s important to understand what a what hoarding is. As it stands, hoarding is often loosely misused.

Just because you have a 50 odd hair ties in your drawer, it does not mean you are a hoarder. Having 100 books you may or may not have read does not make you a hoarder.

Hoarding is not to be confused with Collecting. Collecting old stamps is not hoarding. Hoarding can either be a disorder on its own… or be a symptom of another disorder – like anxiety or depression.

Hoarding behavior can be seen in the quantity of items collected – and let me tell you… it’s not always a quantity of newspapers, plastic containers, or supplies that you will find. This behavior can manifest itself in the way of the person collecting what they see as one-of-a-kind items that in actual fact have no value to you or me (like wooden hangers); collecting freebies (like posters or flyers); or never saying no to bargains (even when they are bargains from thrift shops).

Some Symptoms of Hoarding

  • Unable to throw away or let go of things with no value
  • Gets anxious when trying to get rid of things
  • Unable to organize the items
  • Feeling overwhelmed when trying to tidy up or organize the home
  • Fear of running out things


Why do people Hoard?

People hoard for many different reasons, mostly in response to their disorder whether it be depression or another kind of trigger.

The obvious reason being that they feel that the items they keep will be of value or use some day. The less obvious – and probably the reason they get away with it – is because they feel the things they keep have sentimental value that cannot be replaced.

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2. Get the Hoarder Out of the House

If possible, you should organize for the person to be out of the house. Perhaps you have a relative that they can stay with for some time? I’ll be honest now in saying that it cannot be done in one day – unless you have a whole team of people helping you like in the TV shows. I did it on my own, and it took me 9 days. NINE DAYS!

3. Organize Your Supplies

You will need at least the following:

  • Rubbish Bags – Large
  • Recycling Bags – Large
  • Rubber Gloves
  • Multipurpose Disinfectant Spray
  • Vacuum Cleaner

If you can get the following, even better:

  • Large Boxes – Labeled for Donation
  • Hire a Skip

4. Start With the First Room By the Main Door

The reason you should start with the first room by the main door is that you want to make space. If you start with any other room in the house, you will find yourself – well… trapped.

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5. Begin Sorting – Throw / Recycle / Donate

You should always have 3 bags (or boxes) with you in each room.

  1. Throw – Anything that is obviously rubbish. There will be heaps of it.
  2. Donate – Anything that can be used, but is not needed in this particular home you are cleaning. Again… there will be heaps of it; so do not hesitvate. I donated 110 clothes hangers!
  3. Recycle – Anything that cannot be donated, but is of recycling material ie, plastic, paper, or glass.

Tip: When you are sorting through things, there are many times that you will hesitate – that’s okay. Think about the person who lives in the house. What have you seen them actually use? Keep only what you know is of real sentimental value to them, for example photos.

6. Clean As You Go

I know this sounds redundant, since you’re already cleaning as it is. But trust me – as you begin to clear up some space… go ahead and vacuum those floors and spray and wipe those surfaces. Seeing clear spaces will help you to keep moving forward.

7. Take Regular Breaks

As I mentioned before, it can be a very difficult experience; and you will feel a myriad of emotions while you are doing this herculean task. Allow yourself to take breaks – you deserve it.

8. Donate

Take the bags marked for donation to the thrift shops / op shops at the end of every day that you are clearing up. Not only does this clear up the space, it also helps you see progress in what you are doing.

9. Repeat 

Now – as I said, it takes time. It took me 9 days to do it for a 2 bedroom house.

10. Maintain

After you’ve finished, it is a good idea to do some regular maintenance. Remember that your loved one is hoarding for a reason – so it is bound to get out of hand again, if you let it.

You can do this! Good luck xo


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15 thoughts on “How to Clean A Hoarder’s House When It Feels Impossible

  1. I have some hoarding tendencies that are in direct contrast with me OCD which is the only reason I think I don’t have this problem. These tips are awesome and the progress impressive. Thank you for sharing.

    1. I’m glad that you don’t have this problem. It can be quite difficult to deal with. We’re now focused on maintaining it xx

    1. I now use it for our home too – it just makes so much sense and makes things a lot easier especially when done regularly.

    1. Thanks Helen. Yes, it certainly it is important. It has been a difficult road and I hope that people gain some takeaways from our experience xx

    1. Thanks Bethany. I’m the same and I had to take so many breaks to keep from reaching my breaking point 🙁 It’s so important to be able to deal with it in a sensitive manner.

  2. I grew up with a single parent mother who is Hoarder now that i’m 34 yrs old with my own family I want her house to be clean an picked up so my family and I can go visit her an she can even have her 2 grand children to visit an stay overnight but it is difficult to convince her that I want her to be able to enjoy a nice clean picked up house an invite family and friends over. I need all the advice I can get to help my mother.

    1. Hi Amy.I definitely understand what you mean about the children having a place to stay when they visit. I’m the same. It really is quite difficult because whenever I raise the subject, my mother gets very defensive and eventually… very upset. Some days will show progress, while other days will highlight regression. I must say – at this very moment, “we” have regressed once again. I guess we all just need to take it one day at a time. The place is back to its previous state. Big hug xx

  3. Hi Amy, I believe that individuals who keep things,that no longer serve them a positive purpose any longer, are perhaps psychologically frozen, in a survival state, so to speak. People, places and things, come and go, but they can not move past the items that are attached to the people, and the places, associated with them. For them, it is difficult to move past the moment when they actually purchased, received or some how acquired the item or items. Many people consider this type of behavior to be merely an anxiety disorder. I believe that it is a unique form of survival, that is not quite understood yet, much like the Autism Spectrum Disorders, in fact, I suspect that it could be a form of intellectual Autism. There is a medication that I have seen work wonders in these type of situations. It is called LDN, or Low Dose Naltrexone. It is incredible, in that it actually encourages the body and mind, to heal itself. It is also being used to help cure Crohns Diseasem Multiple Sclerosis, and many other conditions. It is prescription, therefore must be prescribed by a doctor. I also wanted to say, that I admire your desire to help, and to understand this painful condition. We are learning more about each other, with every day that passes. I think that is a good thing.

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